In 2023, about 17 percent of American men got any kind of mental health treatment, whether counseling or medication. For women, it was over 28 percent. Among men living with a diagnosable mental illness, fewer than half got any treatment at all. Men die by suicide at almost four times the rate of women, and they account for nearly 80 percent of suicide deaths in this country.

Crisis Text Line handled about 1.5 million conversations in 2025, and fewer than one in five of the people reaching out identified as male. One of the authors of its report on boys and men said that they’re raised to equate self-reliance with strength and to see asking for help as weakness.

If you were raised that way, asking for help can be hard, even when you know something is wrong. You may be losing your temper with your kids more than you’d like, growing distant from your wife, struggling with a habit you can’t quit, or lying awake at night with worries.

The story behind the name One10

My practice is called One10 because of a story in Luke 17:11-19. Jesus healed ten men with leprosy, and only one of them, a Samaritan, turned back, praising God. He fell at Jesus’ feet and thanked him. Jesus said to him, “Rise and go your way; your faith has made you well” (Luke 17:19, ESV).

Real transformation begins when a man, like the one who returned to Jesus, turns toward what is true, acknowledges what he carries, and allows faith, honesty, and self-awareness to do the deeper work that brings lasting wholeness. You can read more about the meaning behind One10 on my About page.

Taking the first step

If you’ve been carrying something on your own, I’d be glad to talk with you. We’d start with a 15-minute phone call, so you can tell me what’s going on and ask whatever you’d like to know about counseling. Reach out here, or read what to expect first if that helps.

If you’re in crisis, don’t wait for an appointment. Call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, any time. If you’re in immediate danger, call 911.